The Fear of Being Alone

"The fear of being alone
is the absence of understanding
that love is never lonely."

In one’s life, eventually everyone will have to confront the fear of being alone. Most people experience this fear when their aloneness is not by their choice and when they are at their weakest—i.e., when they lose a loved one through a broken relationship or death. The fear of being alone is really the fear of not feeling loved. This fear can be terrifying to even a seemingly stable person.

If you feel uncomfortable when you’re by yourself, it’s because you have not mastered your center. Your center is a place within that literally gives you the feeling that you are alright; it is one of the most important spiritual puzzle pieces of your spirit to find. How do you know if you don’t have this center puzzle piece? You struggle with being alone.

Realizing and dealing with loneliness calls for courage and this area needs be explored bravely. You are not subhuman because you are lonesome. You are just by yourself! People usually avoid being alone by keeping busy, and yet the only way to truly know yourself without the distractions of activities and responsibilities influencing you, is by being alone. Consciously taking time for introspection after your practice is the best way to understand the fear of loneliness.

When you can be alone without feeling lonely, you will learn self-acceptance. Self-acceptance will grow to contentment allowing the true nature of self-love to unfold.

Within you is the openness to give and receive love beyond measure; what hinders you is your inability to understand that love is never a lonely feeling. - From The Silent Miracle, by Ron Rathbun

Spiritual Puzzle Pieces: Spiritual puzzle pieces are difficult to describe because they’re innate feelings of knowledge in your spirit. Have you ever seen someone do something again and again and they don't seem to know better? Yet you do, you understand. Missing spiritual puzzle pieces represent the absence of experience. You cannot be faulted for not knowing what you have not experienced; this is the reason for living.

- from The Silent Miracle, pg. 159 by Ron W. Rathbun